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It's Not You, It's God.

So you've never had a boyfriend? That's okay, neither have I. You've never been on a date? Me either. You've never even been asked out on a date because that would require you to actually talk to a guy? I think we might be the same person.

For a long time I struggled with singleness. I thought it was a curse brought on by God because I wasn't doing something right or I wasn't living my life the exact way He wanted me too. All through high school and even into college I felt burdened by singleness and I believed it was all my fault. I would make lists of what I assumed had to be wrong with me. Was it my hair? Was is it my body? Was it my voice? Or even worse, was it internal? Was it my personality? Was it my humor? At least if it was an external issue I could fix my appearance much easier than I could fix my inner self.

But I did. I fixed my heart.

God created me perfectly. He created me in His own image. He created the universe and all the cosmos and galaxy after galaxy including this one and all it's inhabitance and he created you. Just one of you. There has never been and never will be another you. That should make you feel incredibly special and more importantly, loved.

God does not curse us with singleness. He actually blesses us with it. He's given us this very special time in our life to be alone with Him. We can take this time and learn about who we truly are and what we stand for. We get to discover our own faiths and the gifts God has given us. Better yet, we can use those gifts to help others.

I used to think that I was destined for singleness. That I would never get married or start a family of my own, but I don't think that's the case anymore. I believe God as someone picked out especially for me, but the biggest lesson I learned was to not sit and wait for that special person. I pray for him and I pray for us and what will be, but more importantly I pray to God that in this time of my singleness He makes me the person He wants me to be. I pray that He shape my heart so when the time comes I'll be ready to leave singleness behind and move to the next chapter of my life.

To be continued.

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